Forcing his/her way in!

Ugh! The answer is NO!! I am not ready for anything more than friendship...

Hello Loves!

Have you ever had someone who wouldn't take no for an answer? Someone who, for whatever reason, wanted to be in a dating relationship with you but you were not ready or maybe not ready for that particular person? You become so frustrated because they keep telling you why they are the right person for you and they will not let you rest until you say, okay! let's start something new. Now in the back of your mind, you are hating the idea. This is not what you want and you are beating yourself up for allowing yourself to be dragged into a relationship that you didn't want or just wasn't ready for. My friend, I have been there and done it! I've learned that it is not a good idea to be "sucked" into a relationship just because the person begged me and pleaded with me all night to love him. I mean, he would not let me hang up that phone until I said, Alright! Fine, a relationship is what it will be since you won't take friendship for an answer. The worst decision for everyone involved! Now, I was not only hurting him (in the long run, he would hurt because I wasn't sincere; I didn't honestly care for him in the way that he was wishing for and actually deserved) but hurting myself as well. I was now wasting precious time with this new relationship; taking time away from my journey of learning more about myself and time away from a man who is actually meant for me (well, from a man who I could see myself with; One who didn't seem to have any wounds and my chances of getting a little closer to my potential mate so I could dig deeper to make sure he was safe to love were now slim to none because I jumped into this unwanted union). A new feeling was introduced that I have never felt before for a man and that was resentment. I resented him for forcing me into it. He would call me and my entire mood would change. It was great hearing from him when we were just friends but now this is supposed to be my boyfriend, my man, I would tell myself. You now have to speak differently with him lol. Even if I don't want to...

You see, making the decision to be with someone for the wrong reasons is detrimental for not only him/her but for you as well. I learned that it's best to just continue to say no and to cut all ties with that person. Life is so much better when you are focusing on what you choose to give your attention to. Not because someone else thinks it's a good idea. Going forward, I now check with how I'm feeling and If I'm not feelin' it or him, then it's not happening lol no mater how much the man begs and pleads with me. At the end of the day, it's my life and I am responsible for it. Besides, that same guy who was angry at me for revealing my true feelings of not wanting the relationship may thank me some day. Once he has found a mate that makes him happy and she is happy with him... :). A happy ending for everyone!